Having sex for the first time is an extremely important and personal decision. As much time as it takes for each person to feel absolutely sure that they want to do it, it is always okay.
Planning your first relationship allows you to think with whom you want to share these new sensations, as well as to control your environment, that is, how, where and when you would like it to happen, from small details such as the clothes and the music you want to listen to, to having what you need to feel protection and respect.
If you feel you are close to “your first time,” keep the following in mind:
The possibility of feeling pain
The first time you have vaginal sex may hurt, feel good, or both. Many times, there is slight bleeding from the vagina during penetration.
If the pain is severe, wait a while and start again. If the discomfort continues, stop. Talk to your partner about how you feel and discuss it with your gynecologist during your next visit.
Lubrication
Sometimes the vagina is not sufficiently lubricated (moist), and may cause pain or irritation. This situation is normal and does not mean that something is wrong with the woman or her partner.
It is advisable to wait until arousal is greater before inserting anything into the vagina (such as fingers or penis). You can also use an intimate lubricant, which will make sex more comfortable.
Contraceptives
One of the myths surrounding “the first time” is that you can’t get pregnant. This is completely false.
Whether it is your first, second, third, or if you have been sexually active for years, women can become pregnant any time semen or seminal fluid enters the vagina. Therefore, it is important to consider using birth control.
When choosing a contraceptive, consider dual protection. dual protectionthat is, use a hormonal contraceptive (implant, hormonal IUD, injection, patch, pills, emergency pill), combined with the correct use of a barrier contraceptive. barrier contraceptive (male or female condom), thus preventing unplanned pregnancy and contracting a sexually transmitted infection. Discuss with your doctor which option is best for you.
Changes in your body
Some say that when you start your sex life your hips will widen.
Physical changes in the body vary from one person to another, and are related to factors such as genetics or diet. The beginning of your sexual life is not related to the acceleration or accentuation of these changes, and neither does it prevent the development of the same.
Violence
There are times when unwanted practices or situations may be condoned for fear that the sexual partner will become upset or pull away. Even behaviors such as pushing, hair pulling, slapping, teasing, blackmailing or pressure to have sex may occur. Beware, if they are not consensual practices, which are comfortable for both, it is violence.
It is crucial that you can define boundaries with your partner, and identify when a situation becomes abusive or violent.
Keep in mind that you can always refuse to do something you don’t want, don’t agree with, or that makes you uncomfortable, regardless of your sexual partner’s insistence. You don’t need justification for not wanting to have sex. Sex is not a test of love; when it is forced or pressured, it is violence.
It is most likely that when planning your “first time” many doubts will arise, giving yourself time to research and/or talk to your circle of trust (partner, friends, family, doctor) will help you make the best decision for you.
Author: Ipas LAC
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